What does it mean to be Vulnerable?
The Oxford Dictionary has three meanings to the word Vulnerable – the first definition being:
Exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.
I honestly never really knew what this concept meant. I used to think there was weakness in feeling vulnerable. I used to feel like I was opening myself up to inevitable pain and suffering. But I realized that it is part of the human condition to feel. During my dark moments – dark times of rumination, sadness and depression, I contemplated as to why there were millions of songs about sadness, lost love, unrequited love, loss, pain, heartbreak, betrayal… you know where I am getting at here right? As humans, we make mistakes. We ourselves have hurt, and others have hurt us. As we go through life, we go through a myriad of experiences that change us – whether we’re conscious of it or not. But some things affect us.
I found that… suppressing the innate humanity within us to feel only hurts us even more. It only harbors pain, confusion and trepidation to go on and live life to the fullest. I’ve learnt these past few years that disappointment, heartbreak and all those horrible human emotions are part of our existence. It will happen. But during those times of darkness in our lives how do we get through them? Do we suppress these emotions? Do we let ourselves feel – allowing them to come and go? Do we throw these emotions on to others? Or do we keep them to ourselves until our thoughts eat us up? If there’s one thing I believe: It is the power of Vulnerability. I once came across a TED talk by Brene Brown. She words it so brilliantly that all the pieces of the puzzle made sense in my mind on what the word or the concept actually meant.
I will leave you with a the link for the video and a quote that resonated with me – go ahead and see for yourself. THE POWER OF VULNERABILITY
To let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen … to love with our whole hearts, even though there’s no guarantee…to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, when we’re wondering, “Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?” just to be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, “I’m just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I’m alive.” And the last, which I think is probably the most important, is to believe that we’re enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, “I’m enough” … then we stop screaming and start listening, we’re kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we’re kinder and gentler to ourselves.”
Everyone is going through something in their lives whether its something big or small. If you’re going through a rough time or feeling down, I want you to remember that it is okay to feel the way you feel. It’s okay to feel down, it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to lay down for as long as you need. But once you’ve let yourself go through those emotions, take the courage to stand up, ask for help, keep your head up high and move forward.
It is only when you continue to stay in that non- progressive state, that you feed that emotion rather than let it pass.
Just wanted to spill my thoughts tonight. It’s the Easter Weekend and I have been busy eating chocolate and organizing my uni work. Typical student life right?
Happy Easter readers. Keep at it.