21 things

It has been while since I last wrote. A lot has happened. I cannot even begin to describe how much I feel I have transformed into a completely new person. But I can begin by writing about the 21 things I have learnt so far from my 21 years of existence.

  1. Self-care and self-development is more important than anything else. I implore you to put this as a high priority, above everything else. Everything will fall into place once you’re actively working on yourself.
  2. Family has always been there for me through thick and thin despite all the mistakes I have made. Continue to foster your relationship with them. They are blood.
  3. Nourish your friendships. The people you affiliate yourself with are important and help shape you. Ensure that you never let anyone treat you with disrespect and unkindness. And if you do, learn from your mistake and move on. Be yourself and the right kind of friendships will gravitate towards you.
  4. Awareness of one’s self is imperative to making the right, conscious decisions. When you lose touch with who you are, and what you stand for – you will fall for anything. It is important to be self-aware and to self reflect.
  5. Not everything is going to make sense now, but it will eventually. A lot of things had happened in my life that resulted in me questioning everything and wanting to find an answer to every little question. But most of the time, you are NOT going to find all the answers. They will be revealed in due time and when it does happen, you will understand why things unraveled the way they did and made you the person you are now.
  6. You’re always learning – never expect that you’re going to get everything straight away. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to understand something fully. Just remember that it’s all part of the process
  7. Humility will propel and transform you. Don’t see yourself as higher or lower than anyone. Know your worth.
  8. Be adventurous – say yes to opportunities but don’t over burden yourself
  9. Do good in the world as best as you can. You cannot do everything but you can make a difference in an area you’re passionate about.
  10. Success is not a linear process nor is life. I have learnt that sometimes good things fall apart, so that better things fall into place. I have experienced this first hand. In the moment it seems like everything falling apart but in time you shall see how it works out for the better.
  11. Faith without works is dead. Without exercising faith in yourself, living with integrity, speaking words and putting those words into action. Practicing what you preaching essentially. If you act against the values you hold, those values cease to exist.
  12. Self-expression is the key to happiness. I held myself back for so long due to the fear of the unknown, the fear of what people would think about me. I was only keeping myself hostage to their expectations of me. Find a medium to which you can express yourself… in writing, music, art or poetry. Whatever it is, lose you self in it.  Don’t be afraid to express your authentic self.
  13. Volunteering and networking opened up so many doors and opportunities – go and explore different ways to get involved. Dive deep. You learn so much from delving into serving others and taking the time to help others in need.
  14. Learn to accept difficult circumstances – there are certain things you do not have control over. What you do have control of however, is how you react and how you deal with the situation. Accept what is, and work on moving forward not backward. It took me a while to learn this
  15. Travel. Leave for a while. Go out and experience different types of environments, work with different kinds of people. Widen those dimensions within yourself, full of experience. You will not regret it. I intend on going solo-travelling one day.
  16. Treat yourself but do not over indulge – self-explanatory. All good things in moderation. Stay away from things that do not make yourself better or things that will only make you feel worse in the long run. E.g. just eat one piece of cake… or two.
  17. Ask yourself when was the last time you did something for the first time? Do something new, something you’ve never done before.
  18. Do not let people treat you less than you deserve. Have a standard of networks around you. I learnt the hard way…
  19. Be honest with yourself. Sometimes we lie to ourselves for temporary happiness and the burden of facing the truth. Come to terms with your weaknesses and your strengths. It will make you stronger
  20. Cultivate a growth mindset. You are more than your limitations…
  21. Stay away from things that you know will only hurt you in the end. Save yourself from that burden and just learn to walk away. You have a choice in the things you do that will only make you better or further burden you.

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